Almost no one gets through life without, at some point, having their heart broken. Advice at such a dark moment tends to focus on letting time do the healing. But there is also a vital role for understanding and perspective. We sometimes make our situation far worse than it needs to be through certain ideas we develop about why we've been left. We start to tell ourselves that we are not good enough, that we fail at everything, that this one rejection means we will always be maltreated... Our thoughts make our sorrow a great deal more intense than it could be.